we
always feel that love hurts us.... but the fact is that the person whom
u loved makes u feel disappointed, and not the love.....
LOVE IS THE FEELING TOWARDS SOMEONE, NOT THAT SOMEONE.....
AND LOVE doesnt depend on the type of person, but it is for the person whom we decide to/ we choose to love......
love is a feeling of oneness with the person and caring for him from
heart..... it doesnt depend on that persons behaviour, but it's your
attitude towards that person....
when your feelings change for that person, beware : its not love, but
just an attachment due to some reason which may be anything which is
identified with either your likes in terms of looks, interests,
personality, anything benefits you etc........
in this process we never understand as to when we get carried away in the expectations from that person.....
ALWAYS THINK : WHEN U SAY YOU LOVE A PERSON, THEN HIS NEGATIVES OR
POSITIVES SHOULD NOT MATTER...... BECAUSE ITS U WHO CHOOSE WHOM TO
LOVE......
love is not a system or a rule book, but just a
feeling of care towards a soul..... not as a person.... bacause when we
say person, his traits affect us, hence affecting our approach towards
him......
expression
is important in love.... emotions needs to be expressed, conveyed to
the person whom you love..... most compatibility problems occur due to
unexpressed emotions....
we expect the person to know our feelings
without saying, which is very wrong notion..... it only creates a
tendency to get confused and presumptions based on our understanding
about the person, not the actual person.....
its not important to
agree on all issues, its important to know where u agree and where not
and find solution to adjust the differences......
it should not be based on liking and disliking but rationality.....
eg. if u like smoking or drinking, ut u know its harmful for body and
mind.... so here u should think rationally that if ur partner says to
leave smoking its for your benefit, not his personal interest to change
you..... here if also u like drinking, see the consequences and find
solution, not just accept this habit and move on.... and partener should
help by knowing the reasons as to why drinks or smoking needed, and wok
on those reasons.... even in matter of personality problems like anger,
or depression etc..... but yes,
if u fight for liking in
colour, or food, or dressings, hairstyles etc then we must remeber these
are personal traits and don't harm others, and hence we should never
try to change a person on these personal grounds..... you can suggest
changes but dont enforce them..... because everyone has its own way of
thinking himself.... there is no such standard for these personal
aspects and its matter of personal choice..... dont fight or argue on
these things.......
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